You're here right? It's UrbanMoms. I'm guessing most of you reading this have kids (or I've harassed you into reading my work). Maybe then this isn't the most appropriate forum to unleash my fury. But I don't have boxing class for a few more days, so you're going to get it.
The National Post, which I will note IS the paper that I subscribe to, posted an article about those selfish, selfish couples who choose not to have babies. It's.. I'm trying to think of a word but I can't quite get one that gets across my outrage. What a load of crap this article is.
The author paints out couples who choose not to procreate as self-indulgent, yoga obsessed snobs. Has he considered WHY these couples don't have kids? Here's some ideas:
a. They don't like kids. Not everyone does. I hate liver. I'm not going to buy a cattle farm and eat liver, be surrounded by liver day in and day out. Is that selfish? No. It's common sense.
b. They can't afford it. Some people actually consider finances before bringing kids into the world that they can't afford to feed, clothe or look after properly. That's not selfish - it's SMART.
c. They aren't convinced this world is such a great place. There are multiple times in a week where I think - 'what will it be like for Will?'. War, cancer, environmental damage, Justin Bieber... What is this world coming to? Selfish or actually totally caring to choose not to bring another kid into that??
Oh and Mr. Author whose name I won't promote. FYI. I spent my 30s childless and was on the fence about having one at all. Before I did, I spent 10 years looking after my grandmother. I'm no martyr and I'm not looking for praise but I can tell you that it was emotionally draining and the opposite of selfish. It would have been a major challenge to do what I'm doing now and look after her at the same time. I wasn't doing hot yoga everyday or jetting off to New York.
Such drivel. Really drivel. It makes me angry. At what point can we all just agree to respect one another's choices? Someone told me when I was choosing to have Will that THAT was selfish. That I was just doing it for myself and wasn't thinking of him. (Wow this kid looks miserable huh??)
So you couples (and singles) who choose not to have children? I applaud you for knowing what you want (or rather, what you didn't want).