People often ask me if I will ever marry again. My answer is always and immediately yes. If that sounds surprising because it didn't work out the first time I can't explain it. I just think it is the way I am supposed to live. And not because of some fairytale notion hangover from my childhood.I love to give and receive shelter. And (good) marriage is the ultimate shelter. "No matter what happens at work and the rest of the day there is a shelter when you get home" Danny to Annie.Are you in the mood for a love story?  I am... More »

I started to write a post about something else but every time I put my fingers to the keyboard all I could think about was this post I read through a Facebook update:I am so fucking sick of teaching our daughters not to get raped.I clicked on the links. I watched the videos. I felt sick that a girl went to a party and drank too much, like most of us have done at some point, and ended up the victim of a heinous sexual assault and then, shockingly, became the butt of everyone's joke. They nicknamed her "the dead... More »

Lisa Ling learns about polyamory on her show, OWN Our America. The show features a W - five individuals in a relationship together. The show doesn't outline the specific lines around each individual to the other individuals, but it's an interesting look at a unique relationship. Can I see our relationship opening up to more people in the future? Possibly. At this point we're still sort of shell shocked that we've found one amazing person who's so well suited to have a relationship with the both of us (especially considering how different my husband and I are) that it's hard to... More »

The past four weeks have been crazy, and I've been delinquent in posting. We had family visiting from out of town and decided not to come out to them, putting a lot of stress on our trio. Not fun. But I'm back, and ready to keep posting again,and answering your questions.In my last post I promised to address a few reader questions soon - that's today!Sara asked, "Do you ever have extra-marital relationships that your husband disapproves of? Do you always choose females as your extra partners? How would your husband feel if you chose a man? Is their a... More »

If it is not enough to just love the name of this book/movie-you will love the book/movie.For any of you who spent your teens wondering if the shiny happy people over there were really so much shinier and happier than you were- this is the movie.For any of you raising people and  wondering what is the key to happiness and making right and sound personal choices- it is self esteem. For any of you wondering why at certain points in your life you have loved the wrong people or   conversely can't figure out why you  got so lucky being loved... More »